Improving Yourself for Everyone Else

A possible hidden motive behind your goals

I can remember years ago when the “new year, new me” energy would roll around and I would start making goals. But they weren’t really about growth.

They were built around my perceived failures.

I didn’t think, “What do I want to work on this year?” so much as I thought, “What should I improve so I’m not letting others down?”

I believed I needed to do more or better so my kids would become better adults. I needed to be better for my husband, etc.

I needed to fix myself so everyone around me could have an easier, happier life.

I created goals based on how I thought I was failing others, not by what would actually make me healthier or better.

The truth is that sometimes even self-improvement is done in a spirit of people pleasing.